Madonna and Child by Raphael
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Good evening Father. This is with regards to the RH Bill. The Church is against artificial birth control because it is immoral, its contra/anti LIFE. The Church, on the other hand, advocates natural birth control. But it is still birth control. The end is still the curtailment of birth. We can therefore conclude that although the means is natural but the purpose is still anti LIFE. Kindly clarify po, Father.
- Fr. Abe, CRS said...
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[Good evening Father.]
GOOD EVENING TOO.
[This is with regards to the RH Bill. The Church is against artificial birth control because it is immoral, its contra/anti LIFE.]
CORRECT.
[The Church, on the other hand, advocates natural birth control.]
THE NATURAL METHOD IS NOT CALLED NATURAL BIRTH CONTROL BECAUSE IT IS THE PRIVILEGE OF THE NATURAL PROCESS OF NATURE PUT INTO ORDER BY GOD. LIKE FOR INSTANCE, ENJOYING RAIN DURING RAINY SEASON OR SNOW DURING WINTER.
THE NATURAL PROCESS DO CONTROL PREGNANCY BUT YOU DIDN'T TAKE ANYTHING THAT IS FAKE OR ARTIFICIAL. MUCH MORE, THE NFP IS STILL OPEN TO LIFE. THERE ARE VERY RARE CASE THAT THE CHILD IS STILL POSSIBLE EVEN DURING INFERTILE PERIOD. SO, THERE IS STILL OPENNESS TO LIFE.
THE NFP ALSO REQUIRES SELF-CONTROL BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO WAIT FOR PROPER DAYS FOR IT. UNLIKE THE CONDOMS AND THE PILLS THAT THEY ARE LIKE ANIMALS ENJOYING AND ENJOYING SEX ANYTIME, ANYDAY BECAUSE THERE IS A COUNTER DRUG AGAINST THE FORMATION OF LIFE.
[But it is still birth control.]
IT IS NOT. IT IS RATHER A SPECIAL PRIVILEGE THAT MARRIED COUPLES CAN ENJOY AND AVAIL WITHOUT TAKING IN ANY DRUGS OR RUBBER BUT IT IS STILL OPEN TO LIFE.
IF YOU OPEN YOUR AIRCON TO GET COLDER THAT'S NICE BUT SINCE IT IS ARTIFICIAL YOU HAVE TO PAY FOR THE CONSEQUENCE... HIGHER ELECTRIC BILL. BUT IF YOU OPEN YOUR WINDOW AND LET THE AIR COMES IN THEN YOU WILL NOT PAY ANYTHING FOR IT BECAUSE IT IS NATURALLY FREE. IT IS A PRIVILEGE FROM GOD.
[The end is still the curtailment of birth.]
IF IN YOUR HEART YOU ARE USING THE NFP ONLY FOR BIRTH CONTROL THEN IT BECOMES AS SUCH A PURELY BIRTH CONTROL METHOD. BUT THE NFP IS STILL DIFFERENT FROM PILLS BECAUSE IT HAS NO ARTIFICIALITY AND THERE IS LIMIT IN IT. IT CANNOT BE AVAILED WHENEVER YOU WANT. THE COUPLE MUST TAME THEIR PASSIONS STILL DURING FERTILE DAYS. IT WILL TEACH THE MARRIED COUPLE - SELF CONTROL, PATIENCE AND ABSTINENCE.
IT IS HUMANIZING AND NOT ANIMALISTIC LIKE THE ARTIFICIAL ONES.
[We can therefore conclude that although the means is natural but the purpose is still anti LIFE. Kindly clarify po, Father.]
IF THE PURPOSE IS PURELY FOR BIRTH CONTROL IT IS WRONG.
THE NFP IS OPEN TO LIFE, THE COUPLES ARE FREE TO LOVE EACH OTHER WITHOUT ARTIFICIALITY AND THEY ARE SIMPLY ENJOYING THE PRIVILEGE GIVEN BY GOD WHILE REMAINING OPEN TO LIFE IF EVER GOD WILLS IT TO BE SO.
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hello father, i'm catholic. can you please clarify what you said: IF THE PURPOSE IS PURELY FOR BIRTH CONTROL IT IS WRONG. my question is why is it be wrong? isn't it that it's better to choose NFP than AFP as birth control? isn't it that NFP teaches abstinence/self control even for purely birth control purpose? can you please tell me how NFP should be done/treated other than being a birth control method? if i have 3 kids and don't want anymore to have another, and i choose NFP to do it, does it mean i'm committing a sin? so either way NFP or AFP, i'm committing a sin? if i choose to make love to my wife during her infertile days to avoid conception (meaning birth control purpose), why is it wrong? didn't you say that it is still open to life? bottom line, what are the other purposes of NFP, if not birth control alone, so that i will not sin if i choose it instead of AFP?
ReplyDelete[hello father, i'm catholic. can you please clarify what you said: IF THE PURPOSE IS PURELY FOR BIRTH CONTROL IT IS WRONG.]
ReplyDeleteIT MEANS THAT EVEN IF WE ARE USING NFP OUR ATTITUDE IS MUST NOT BE EXCLUSIVELY REFUSAL TO BE OPEN TO LIFE. EVEN IF YOU WANT TO USE THE NATURAL PRIVILEGE STILL AS CATHOLIC YOU ARE BEING DEMANDED TO BE OPEN TO LIFE.
[my question is why is it be wrong?]
IT IS WRONG BECAUSE GOD IS A GOD OF LIFE AND NOT A GOD WHO IS CLOSED TO LIFE. IT IS WRONG BECAUSE YOUR 5TH OR 7TH CHILD COULD BE THE PERSON WHO WILL BRING PROSPERITY TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AND THE COUNTRY. IN LIFE THERE ARE A LOT OF OCCASIONS WHEN THE YOUNGEST OR ONE OF THOSE BORN LATE WERE THE ONE BECOMING THE GREATEST HONOR AND BLESSINGS TO THE FAMILY. SO WHO ARE YOU TO DECIDE TO BE CLOSED TO LIFE?
[isn't it that it's better to choose NFP than AFP as birth control?]
YES. BECAUSE NFP IS NATURAL AND STILL OPEN TO LIFE. IT IS NOT GOVERNED BY BIRTH CONTROL MENTALITY BUT BY FREEDOM IN BOTH BODY AND SPIRIT.
[isn't it that NFP teaches abstinence/self control even for purely birth control purpose?]
ReplyDeleteYES, BUT IF YOUR PURPOSE IS PURELY BIRTH CONTROL THE NFP IS STILL GOOD BUT IT IS YOU WHO IS NOT. BECAUSE YOU LOOSE YOUR TRUST IN THE LORD AND OPENNESS TO HIS GRACE. YOU ARE REFUSING THE POSSIBILITY OF A NEW CHILD WHOM HE CAN GIVE YOU AS A BLESSING.
TAKE NOTE, EVERY CHILD IS A BLESSING NOT A PROBLEM OR CURSE. THE SOURCE OF PROBLEMS IN THE WORLD IS NOT THE CHILDREN BUT OUR SINFULNESS AND IMMORALITIES.
[can you please tell me how NFP should be done/treated other than being a birth control method?]
SIMPLE. JUST USE IT AS A PRIVILEGE BUT CONVINCED THAT 'IF EVER'... GOD WILL STILL GIVE ME A BABY DESPITE THE NFP I WILL ACCEPT THIS CHILD AS A BLESSING FROM GOD. THAT IS OPENNESS AND FREEDOM.
[if i have 3 kids and don't want anymore to have another, and i choose NFP to do it, does it mean i'm committing a sin?]
WHAT IS WRONG THERE IS IN THE MENTALITY 'I DON'T WANT TO HAVE ANOTHER KID'. IT MEANS THAT FROM NOW ON YOU JUST WANT TO ENJOY THE PLEASURE OF THE FLESH AND THE ENJOYMENT OF SEX BUT YOU DON'T WANT TO BE OPEN TO ITS NATURAL BLESSING.
THAT MENTALITY IS SELFISH AND TOO MATERIALISTIC. YOU JUST WANT TO USE YOUR BODY FOR PLEASURE BUT YOU DON'T WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR ITS NATURAL EFFECTS.
[so either way NFP or AFP, i'm committing a sin?]
EVEN IF THE METHOD THAT YOU USE IS GOOD IF THE INTENTION IS BAD THEN THE ACT IS BECOMING BAD. FOR INSTANCE, GIVING MONEY IS GOOD BUT IF YOU HAND MONEY TO ANOTHER BECAUSE YOU ARE PAYING FOR HIS SEXUAL SERVICE IS WRONG BECAUSE IT IS PROSTITUTION. SO, THE NFP IS GOOD BUT IF YOU USE IT MERELY TO FEED YOUR SELFISH SEXUAL DESIRES AND PLEASURES WITHOUT BEING OPEN TO LIFE OF COURSE IT IS BECOMING A MEANS TO SIN. THE ROOT OF SIN IS NOT THE NFP BUT YOUR OWN SELFISHNESS.
[if i choose to make love to my wife during her infertile days to avoid conception (meaning birth control purpose), why is it wrong?]
IT IS WRONG BECAUSE THE INTENTION IS PURELY FOR BIRTH CONTROL PURPOSE ONLY. BUT IF YOUR PURPOSE IS THAT YOU ONLY WANT TO PLAN YOUR FAMILY AND PREFER TO HAVE A SPACING THAT IS WHY YOU CHOSE THE NFP BUT YOU ARE TELLING ONE ANOTHER THAT IF GOD WISHES TO GIVE US NEW BABY THROUGH THIS LOVE MAKING WE WILL ACCEPT HIS WILL THEN YOU ARE TRUSTING AND FAITHFUL TO THE LORD. THEN YOUR LOVE MAKING IS NOT ONLY FOR PLEASURE BUT LIFE-GIVING ALSO.
[didn't you say that it is still open to life?]
THE NFP IS OPEN TO LIFE BECAUSE GOD MADE IT OPEN TO LIFE. BUT IF YOUR PURPOSE IS PURELY BIRTH CONTROL THEN YOUR MIND IS NOT OPEN TO LIFE. SEE, WHAT COLORS THE METHOD IS THE PERSON WHO USES THE INSTRUMENT OR METHOD.
[bottom line, what are the other purposes of NFP, if not birth control alone, so that i will not sin if i choose it instead of AFP?]
THE PURPOSE OF NFP IS TO ALLOW THE COUPLES TO HAVE SPACING OF THEIR CHILDREN IN A NATURAL MANNER. BUT THE MARRIED COUPLE MUST USE IT WITH THE INTENTION OF BEING OPEN TO LIFE BECAUSE GOD IS NOT THE GOD OF THE DEAD BUT OF THE LIVING. HE IS THE GOD OF LIFE.